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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.
Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it.
Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*.
If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.
*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.
Episodes
85 episodes
85: "Just Stopping" Doesn't Work... Here's What Does
Most people try to “fix” skin picking or hair pulling by focusing on the behaviour, but that’s why we stay stuck in it.In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root ...
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Episode 85
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22:35
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84: Why You Pick More in the Evenings & What to Do About It
Are evenings your weak spot for picking? You’re likely overstimulated, not "weak" or “failing.” In this episode, I break down why modern-day overload drains impulse control and heightens emotional reactivity, making nights the harde...
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Episode 84
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23:26
83: Why Confident Women Still Struggle to Speak Up | Harriet Bratt
Many strong, driven, and high-achieving women still find themselves holding back, worried about coming across as rude, arrogant, or “too much.”In this conversation with Harriet Bratt, international speaker, trainer, Firewalk Guide...
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1:20:15
82: How to Use Somatics to Heal Your BFRB
If “just stop picking” hasn’t worked, this episode reveals why and what actually does.I share how somatic practices helped me move from coping to healing, so even on hard days filled with stress, migraines, and breakouts, I no longer tur...
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26:48
81: The #1 Mistake Growth-Minded Partners Make That’s Sabotaging Their Relationship | Adam Hudson
When you’re passionate about personal growth, it can feel frustrating if your partner isn’t on the same page. Many growth-minded people unknowingly make a mistake that actually pushes their partner away, sabotaging the very connection they want...
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Episode 81
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1:00:36
80: Everything You’ve Been Told About the Ego Is Wrong
We’ve all heard it: “Your ego is the enemy.” But what if that belief is actually making things worse?In this episode, I challenge the popular narrative surrounding the ego and reveal why perceiving it as “bad” or “toxic” keeps y...
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Episode 80
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28:17
79: The 3 Ingredients Every Relationship Needs (Beyond Just Love) | Adam Hudson
Love might light the spark, but it won’t keep the fire burning.In this episode, coach Adam Hudson breaks down the three core ingredients that make love last and shows how to navigate the messy middle between the honeymoon phase and real ...
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1:19:28
78: Why the World Feels So Divided - The Real Reason We’ve Lost Compassion
This episode is inspired by recent, saddening events. We live in a world that pushes us toward black-and-white thinking, good or bad, right or wrong, us versus them. But if you want to have a real impact, it starts with something most ...
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28:01
77: From Burnout to Alignment - Emotional Intelligence for High Achievers | Zerina Derveni
High-achieving women are used to getting results, climbing ladders, and mastering challenges, but even with all the success, many secretly feel unfulfilled. Why? Because results alone can’t fill the deeper need for meaning, alignment, and authe...
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1:24:04
76: Why Mindset Doesn’t Work And What to Focus on Instead | Blair Dunkley
We’ve all been told to “change our mindset,” but Blair Dunkley makes a strong case for why mindset doesn’t actually work in today’s world and what to focus on instead.Blair has spent decades researching behaviour and creating mind mo...
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Episode 76
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1:40:55
75: Turning Self-Care from a Chore into Something You Crave
If you’ve ever told yourself you’ll “do better with self-care” only to watch it slide the moment life gets stressful, you’re not alone.Most high-achieving women know self-care is important, yet it often feels like one more task on the ne...
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Episode 75
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32:06
74: Use Breathwork to Release Emotional Baggage & Feel Grounded | Karen Theimer
In this episode, I sit down with breathwork facilitator and massage therapist Karen Theimer for a deep, grounded conversation about the power of the breath to release stored emotions, regulate the nervous system, and reconnect you to yourself.<...
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1:03:40
73: Reclaiming Life after Decades with Skin Picking | Melissa’s Story
In this episode, I sit down with Melissa, one of my clients in my program STRENGTH, whose journey is such a powerful example of what’s possible when you approach healing with self-kindness and curiosity.She shares how she went from self-...
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Episode 73
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1:05:27
72: Friendship as an Adult - Why It’s Hard & How to Make It Easy | Adam Hudson
Making new friends as an adult can feel confusing, awkward, or even impossible, but it doesn’t have to be.In this episode, Adam Hudson returns to break down why adult friendship feels so hard, how your past experiences ...
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Episode 72
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1:16:15
71: What's the Point of Personal Development Anyway?
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why am I still not there yet?” or “How much more work do I need to do?”, this episode is for you.I’m unpacking a pattern I see in myself and in so many others who are on a growt...
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Episode 71
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26:27
70: Are You Really an Empath - or Is It Something Else?
If you’ve ever described yourself as an empath, this is for you.I’m diving into a conversation I’ve wanted to have for a long time. One that’s honest, direct, and grounded in love.Because what if the thing we often call empathy… i...
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Episode 70
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30:25
69: Parenthood, Personal Power & the Myth of the Perfect Self - A Raw Conversation with Matt Lavars
What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself?In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching ment...
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Episode 69
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1:17:45
68: How to Break Out of Toxic Patterns in Yourself, Relationships, and Work
If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle where the same frustrating patterns keep repeating, whether in relationships, finances, or how you talk to yourself, there's one place we need to look - inwards.We explore the difference between b...
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Episode 68
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26:54
67: Power, Presence & Polarity - The Real Meaning of Masculine and Feminine Energy | Adam Hudson
This episode goes far beyond surface-level talk about masculine and feminine energy. It’s a deep, practical, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to embody both energies without losing your edge, your drive, ...
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1:06:35
66: Why You Feel Worse After Trying to Be Better
We’ve all tried to punish ourselves into better behavior. Telling ourselves, "You only get to have or enjoy this thing if you DON'T do that." But does it ever actually work?In this episode, we explore ...
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34:42
65: How to Stop Pushing So Hard and Start Living with More Ease
Ever find yourself pushing through exhaustion just to earn a moment of peace, only to crash and repeat the cycle?In this episode, I share a raw, real-life moment where everything went wrong, and exactly how I turned it into a re...
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25:02
64: Slowing Down Without Guilt - A High Achiever’s Guide to Reclaiming Peace
If you're always on the go, chasing the next achievement, and only letting yourself relax once everything is done, this episode is for you.In this heart-to-heart, I share what slowing down really means (and what it doesn't), why...
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29:32
63: Your Relationship Blueprint - How Your Past Shapes Love And How to Heal It | Adam Hudson
In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept of relationship blueprints, the subconscious patterns that shape how we connect, love, argue, and attach.Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap...
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Episode 63
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1:12:32
62: When Focus Feels Impossible - How to Stay Grounded, Productive & Stop Picking
In this episode, Rafaela dives deep into why chronic skin picking often flares up when we’re struggling to focus — and what you can do about it. She shares science-backed, practical tools to help you ground yourself, improve concentration, and ...
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24:31
61: Your Voice Is the Bridge to Your Authentic Self | Angela Lanterman
If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or struggling to speak up, Angela’s story will deeply resonate and remind you of what’s possible when you choose to show up with self-love.In this powerful session, I’m joined by A...
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Episode 61
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56:18